"Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped." - Job 1:20
If you don't know the story of Job it's worth reading for a lot of reasons.
Here's a guy that had just heard the news that great calamity had come to his wealth, his servants, and even his own kids and he goes and gives himself a haircut.
What could he have been thinking has he held the razor in his hand to shave his hair? And why shave his head?
I think the reason is simple. It was a visual reminder to the person mourning and to those around them not only the severity of their grief, but more so to indicate how long has passed since the grief started. As the days and weeks progressed everyone could see that their appearance was returning to normal. And since "time heals all wounds", their emotional and mental state should also be returning to "normal"
Grief is a human emotion. But it's not meant to be one we live in perpetually. Eventually things should return to "normal". It may be a new "normal", but it's different than a time of grieving.
So whether it's the loss of a loved one, a job, a dream, a valued possession, a relationship, a business, or a marriage what will I do the next time I grieve to ensure that I don't grieve forever? What will be my reminder that things are returning to "normal"?
Jesus, may I lean on you when my heart is wounded. May I trust in you to be my healer, my protector, and my rock.